Not to make too many subjective assumptions

I used to believe that I can communicate with anyone, as long as I understand enough generic knowledge, and make assumptions according to the people's background and character, but I was wrong.

Different people are faced with different problems, I can never expect there may be an accurate match between the real situation and the one in my mind, let alone to make a precise assumption to facilitate the communication. The communication is to be an actual communication, with disagrees and misunderstandings at first, and obscure agreements and understanding secondly, and then gradually reach more accurate understanding.

I have to endure all the pains

I use to think that there are some ways to avoid most of the pains by some sort of hedging activities, but I was wrong, pains can be hedged to some extend. But in the long run, more hedging activities will only result in more superficial understanding of life itself.

So why does life bring pains? why do I sometimes hate to face it? The main reason for the pains is the variety of community's behaviors, the more witty a member is, the more complex the community's behaviors can be, so I have to struggle more to understand and get accustomed to it. And sometimes I hate to face it because there seem to be someone who is able to hedge most pains by hacking. But after a few tries, I found that the hedging tricks won't make me happy.

So the final resolution is, let the pains be pains, and then enjoy the happiness after the pains.

More haste, more waste...

I've done many things in a hasty manner, this is not good for my long-term improvement.

Hasty action means less thoughts before acting, more input efforts than normal and more expect on good results. If things quickly go into wrong track and I realize it, it would be better. But sometimes things don't go wrong very quickly. Instead, they evolve into very complex structure and gradually go out of any one's control. The "smarter" I am, the more complex the structure can be. And I'll become a fire-fighter for my whole life.

This, is not a little bit "smart". On the opposite, it's the smart way to go into total stupid. While the stupid way may result in real fortune. And that's my understanding of Laozi's words: "Cycling is the movement of Tao; Gentleness is the manner of Tao. "

"Keep it Simple, Stupid", would be a better choice for a happy life.